IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO EXPRESS LOVE THROUGH SEXUAL INTERCOURSE

(July 1933) On one occasion, a person in the group questioned Baba about lust. Their conversation follows:

“It has been said that, by fighting lust, one can develop true love. But you teach that, by developing true love, one can break away from lust.”

Baba replied, “The method of love is direct. The other method is indirect and roundabout. It is like eating by reaching your mouth with your hand around your neck.”

“When I meet a young woman,” the devotee said, “undesirable thoughts come into my mind. Yet when I avoid them altogether, I feel that I am holding back my development. Is there any way out of this dilemma?”

“Free mixing of the sexes as is done in the West is good on the whole. But if the aspirant feels the slightest flutter of impure thoughts within his mind, he should stand aside. But he must love. In order to avoid such thoughts, he should keep the thought in mind that he is to love me in the other person.”

The man then asked, “Can one express and develop love through sexual intercourse?”

Baba answered, “If you think that you are expressing love through the sex act, you are sadly mistaken. It is lust which prompts you to engage in it. It is not possible to express pure love through sexual intercourse; the impressions (sanskaras) involved therein, clash.”

Lord Meher, Original Publication, Bhau Kalchuri, Vol. 5, pp. 1791 – 1792.